How to Choose an Adoptive Family


Choosing your child’s adoptive family is huge! This choice determines what kind of future your child will have post-placement. What type of family and world he or she will be raised in. That said, it’s important to outline any specific wants and desires you have when creating your adoption plan.

Do you have any specific preferences when it comes to the type of adoption? Do you want the family to have pets? Additional children? Religious beliefs? Perhaps you want a same sex family or traditional family. The list goes on!

Adoption Choices of Oklahoma can help! Here’s a list of what to consider when choosing an adoptive family. This way, we’ll be better able to provide you with the best match – a family that lines up with your needs regarding your child’s future.

Religious Preferences

Adoption Choices of Oklahoma is the only non-faith based adoption agency in Oklahoma. We do not discriminate adoptive families nor expectant women based on your religious beliefs!


Determining the importance of religion can be a controversial topic. But it isn’t meant to be! The existence of religion, or the lack thereof, is completely up to you when it comes to selecting your child’s adoptive family.


If you want your son or daughter to be raised within the same blanket of beliefs that you were as a child or young adult, you will most likely have a more positive inclination to find an adoptive family that shares this value. If not, then adoptive families who don’t practice will appear more ideal. Another option is to state your indifference, and leave room for your child to make up their own minds about the topic.


Whatever reasons you have for being interested specifically in religious-free or religious-full adoption families, Adoption Choices of Oklahoma can make sure that desire is accommodated.

Sexual Orientation

Family structures have evolved. There are single, multi-cultural, and LGBTQ parents. Do you have a preference one way or the other? Do you picture a more traditional family structure, or are you open to one that’s more progressive? When selecting your child’s adoptive family, it’s important that you are honest with your caseworker about this.


Remember, Adoption Choices of Oklahoma is non-judgmental, and we want to find the best family possible for your newborn baby. We will use whatever information you give us to provide matches for you.


The region where your child’s adoptive parents are located is an important factor for some. Do you imagine a life for your child in a more rural community? Or do you hope for your child’s life to be in the suburbs or the city? What about if he or she was to be raised in the same region as you?


Wherever you envision your child being raised, the decision is up to you when choosing the adoptive parents!


Do you want adoptive parents who are the same ethnicity as your child? Are you open to a family with a different ethnicity? Many prospective adoptive parents are open to this. In fact, mixed heritage families are becoming more common across the United States.


Maybe that’s not what you’re looking for, and that’s ok too! Everyone is different and has their own views on what kind of life they want their child to have. We will harbor no judgement either way.

Adoption Choices of Oklahoma understands that each woman’s idea of a perfect family is her own and we are here to help. We have a multitude of waiting adoptive families and we can help you find the perfect family for you. Call us toll-free at: 800-898-6028. If you are local to OKC call us at: 405-755-1999. In the Tulsa area? Call us at: 918-447-7777. You can also text us ANY time from ANY where at: 405-201-6643. Our staff is available to help 24/7. We won’t judge you, we won’t pressure you, we will be waiting to discuss your options!

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