There are many aspects to consider and think about when you’re placing your baby for adoption. But you are not alone and this isn’t a decision you have to make misinformed. We are here to help you. There is no need to rush. You can take your time and research your options. We want you to make sure you fully understand what your decision entails, and how it will impact your life moving forward.
Why do people say “giving baby up for adoption”
In your research, you’re going to find this terminology used often, “give up baby” or “put up baby” or “giving baby up” for adoption. We want you to know that these words and phrases are used to help women like you, women facing an unplanned pregnancy and considering adoption find adoption resources, agency help, and adoption information. Despite the negative connotations these terms might have, they are still the most used and searched terms for adoption. You will quickly learn that adoption is empowering, a healthy choice, and can be a rewarding experience.
Creating an adoption plan in Oklahoma
When you create an adoption plan with Adoption Choices of Oklahoma you are not giving a baby up for adoption. You are making a well thought out decision to place your child for adoption with an adoptive family who is prepared to parent your child, provide a forever home for you child, and potentially develop a lifelong open adoption with you as the birth mother as well.
No one can tell you why or why not adoption might be right option for you and your child. This decision is completely yours to make. Our goal is to arm you with information so you can consider all of your pregnancy options. The decision to place your child for adoption is obviously not an easy one. But in some situations, it is what the mother sees as the best option.
Some things you may want to consider while making your decision are:
1 – Financial stability – are you financially prepared to parent a child?
2 – Child care – do you have access to care for your child or a support system ready to help while you’re at work or school?
3 – Birth father involvement – is the birth father prepared to acknowledge, parent, or support you through this decision?
4 – Home environment – are you living in a safe, stable, comfortable home where your child too will be safe, stable, and comfortable?
5 – Your future plans – career, education, goals.
6 – What you want for your child’s future – can you provide the life you want for your child?
Every pregnancy situation, each adoption consideration, every one of us is so unique and different. There are a lot of things to consider that play into this difficult decision along with so many emotions.
Creating an adoption plan with a licensed adoption agency like us puts you in charge of the adoption process. While we provide the tools and information for each step, you ultimately make the best decisions for you and your baby. Decisions include: choosing the type of adoption or level of openness, choosing an adoptive family, creating a birth plan or hospital plan, and helping to establish a budget for any financial assistance you need.
It also means you have full, free access to mental health care and emotional support. We provide adoption counselors to our birth parents during pregnancy, through adoption finalization, and post placement.
Decide Type of Adoption or Level of Openness
One of the first things you will need to decide when placing your baby for adoption is the level of openness you want in your adoption agreement. There are three different levels:
- Open Adoption
- Semi-Open Adoption
- Closed Adoption
Each type of adoption comes with its own set of pros and cons. There’s no right or wrong answer, it really boils down to what is best for you. This is a great example of how you are in fact, not giving up your baby. With an open adoption or semi-open adoption you have options to be involved with the adoptive family and your birth child. Through an agreed upon amount of communication and interaction, you can watch your child grow and thrive.
To learn more about each type of adoption click here.
Choose the Adoptive Family
After deciding the level of openness that fits you best, think about what kind of adoptive family you’re looking for. Who will ultimately get the gift of your son or daughter, and the responsibility of raising them.
Do you want the family to have pets? Live in a diverse neighborhood? Share similar values as you? All of this and more will be discussed with your adoption caseworker and you will be presented with Adoptive Family profiles. Profiles are filled with information and pictures of each family and will help you determine who is the best match.
Making a Birth Plan for Adoption
When it comes to your adoption plan with us, you have full control. This includes your time in the hospital. We will do everything we can to ensure your needs and wishes are met at the hospital. This might include who you want in your delivery room, how you want your delivery day to unfold, naming the baby, if you will hold the baby or not, and more. You get to decide what kind of adoption you want and you get to decide how the birth of your baby will happen.
Financial Assistance for Adoption
As a licensed adoption agency, we are able to help you with reasonable living expenses through your pregnancy and for a short time after. This might include rent or a safe place to live, utility bills, food and grocery, transportation, maternity clothes, and more. You will work with an adoption specialist to determine what you need and how we can help. We can also make sure you are able to receive prenatal care and legal support. We are not here to mislead or misguide you. We advocate for birth parents and we want your needs met through the adoption process.
Emotional Support for Adoption
Counseling is free for birth parents who choose adoption with our adoption agency. It begins the moment you contact us and ends when you are ready. We will never just walk away or leave you hanging. Even after placement, you can contact us for support. We can connect you with birth mother support groups and continued counseling long after the birth of your child and adoption placement.