FREQUENTLY ASKED QUESTIONS
WHY CHOOSE ADOPTION?
I'VE DECIDED THAT ADOPTION IS THE RIGHT CHOICE FOR ME. WHAT IS THE NEXT STEP?
CAN I CHOOSE THE FAMILY FOR MY BABY?
CAN THE AGENCY HELP ME WITH LIVING EXPENSES?
HOW MUCH CONTACT WILL I HAVE WITH THE ADOPTIVE PARENTS AFTER PLACEMENT?
Child Connect allows adoptive families to exchange and add photos and videos to your child’s Lifebook anytime they wish. Child Connect also allows you the ability to see the photos and videos. You can also upload pictures, videos, and letters to Child Connect.
Child Connect will mail you 4×6 prints of the pictures as well as a Lifebook. You can also view all pictures and letters on-line anytime you want.
CAN I DO THE ADOPTION WITHOUT THE FATHER?
WILL I HAVE TO GO TO COURT TO GIVE MY CONSENT?
WHEN WILL THE ADOPTIVE FAMILY TAKE THE BABY HOME?
The baby generally discharges from the hospital and goes with the adoptive family. If the adoptive family is from out of state, the baby can not go home until after you go to court to relinquish your rights. Approval from both Oklahoma and the adoptive family’s home state also has to be given before the baby can go home.
DOES THE AGENCY PROVIDE PROFESSIONAL COUNSELING SERVICES FOR SUPPORT?
WHAT KINDS OF ADOPTION DO YOU OFFER?
Adoption Choices of Oklahoma specializes in open adoption.
Openness in adoption is a continuum and no single arrangement is right for everyone. Through careful consideration of options, a child-focused approach and commitment, you will be able to decide on the amount of openness that is right for your family. While birth parent and adoptive parent relationships may seem awkward at first, over time, the involved individuals typically become more comfortable with the plan they have chosen and pleased with their decisions. Creating openness between the birth family and the adoptive family provides a child with a lifetime of loving and meaningful relationships.
Please remember, in open adoptions and semi open adoptions, the level of openness is changing and shifting throughout the adoption and after birth. Adoption Choices of Oklahoma seeks to create personalized adoption plans that best meet the needs of the child. You, as the birth parent, are able to first specify the kind of contact you hope for. Prospective adoptive families will be aware of the kind of contact you hope for before their profile is shown to you.
In an Open Adoption, birth parents and adoptive parents are in direct contact with one another and share identifying information with each other. This type of adoption may involve the methods listed above in the semi-open adoption as well as in-person visits, without going through the Agency. The plan for openness is decided and agreed upon by both the birth parents and the adoptive parents. Open adoptions allow the child to connect more easily to his or her birth parents and to maintain a relationship. Keep in mind, the level of openness is always changing and shifting throughout the adoption and after placement; relationships change as time goes on.
Advantages/Disadvantages: Open adoption allows for ongoing contact between the birth parents and the adoptive parents. This contact generally begins when the birth parent first selects the adoptive parents, and this helps to remove much of the secrecy of adoption. The openness continues as adoptive parents are able to answer questions the child may have as they grow older. Some birth parents feel that openness may be too difficult emotionally. It is important to remember than an open adoption, like all relationships, is ever changing. At times, contact may occur more often while at other times there may not be regular contact.
In a Semi-Open Adoption, birth parents and adoptive parents usually meet prior to the birth of the child, and the adoptive parents are often times present for the birth. After placement, communication, such as pictures, texting, phone calls, letters and emails, may occur. Last names and addresses of both parties are not disclosed, unless otherwise agreed upon by the birth parents and adoptive parents. This type of adoption allows for communication between the birth parents and adoptive parents while also maintaining some privacy. Keep in mind, the level of openness is always changing and shifting throughout the adoption and after placement; relationships change as time goes on.
Advantages/Disadvantages: Semi-open adoptions have the benefit of continuing contact between the birth parents and the adoptive parents but generally at a lesser degree than in a fully open adoption. For birth parents who feel contact might be too emotionally difficult, a semi-open adoption allows them to know how their child is doing by receiving updates. The child will grow up knowing who the birth parents are.
In a Closed Adoption, there is no contact between the birth parents and adoptive parents. Closed adoptions tend to be less common than open and semi-open adoptions. Generally, there is no personal information shared with either the birth parents or the adoptive parents in this type of adoption.
Advantages/Disadvantages: Many birth parents select this type of adoption as they feel that any type of openness would be too difficult emotionally. However, the child many not know the reasons the birth parents chose adoption, which can be difficult for the child. It can also be difficult for birth parents as they will not be provided information on how their child is moving forward.
Please Note: In the State of Oklahoma, semi-open and open adoption agreements (informal and formal) are not enforceable by law. However, a written agreement should be completed and birth parents and adoptive parents should be given a copy as well as a copy being placed in the file. Adoption is built on trust; the birth parents and Adoption Choices of Oklahoma trust that the adoptive parents will participate in the semi-open or open adoption.