Step 1: Choose an Agency
Choosing an adoption professional to assist you with your adoption plan is one of the most important decisions for both you and your child. It’s important that your desired adoption agency works in your best interests, builds an adoption plan around your needs, has open communication, and is licensed.
When you choose to work with Adoption Choices of Oklahoma
, you can be sure that our agency and adoption specialists meet each of these requirements!
Step 2: Choose the Adoptive Family
At our agency, your adoption professional will help you find an adoptive family
that best matches your needs and requirements. You will always be able to choose the family for your child, no matter where you are at in your pregnancy or adoption plan.
While it can be a difficult process, you have many options to help select the right adoptive family for you and your baby’s needs. This may include, but not be limited to the following:
• Religious preferences
• Parents’ ages
• Length of marriage
• If existing children are in the home
• Personality traits of adopted parents or their current children
• If one parent will be a stay-at-home parent
• Location of the family’s home
• Extended family
• Living in a multi-cultural community
Step 3: Outline your Hospital Plan
A hospital plan can be a list or a document detailing what you do or do not want during your hospital stay. Creating one before you go into labor helps you mentally prepare for the process. It also allows your adoption professionals and adoptive parents to understand exactly what you want your stay and delivery to look like. Here are some questions to consider when creating it.
• Who do you want to be present during the birth?
• Do you know your state’s wait time for consent for adoption?
• Will you want alone time with your baby post-birth?
• Do you want to take pictures with your baby? With the adoptive family?
• Do you want visitors during your hospital stay?
• Are you going to want to name your baby?
• Are you prepared for emotions post-adoption?
These are hard questions, and it’s important that you don’t get bogged down thinking there is a right or wrong answer to any of them. Adoption will be difficult no matter what you do, so do what you feel is best for you and your child.
Step 4: Decide on Contact Post-Placement
Adoption is becoming more and more open. With that said, you’re able to determine how much contact you’d like with the adoptive family during your pregnancy and after placement.
There are three different types of relationships you can have with an adoptive family: open adoption, semi-open adoption
, and closed adoption. Some birth mothers choose to only receive pictures and letters once a year. But, if you want, you can have more contact and even in-person visits. The level of contact you will have with your child and the adoptive family is up to you.